Some random erectile dysfunction remedy company keeps following, unfollowing and following me again on Instagram. I love that they're helping people with ED, which is so real, to quote Jeff Buckley (though I'm pretty sure he wasn't talking about ED in that song), but fortunately not something I suffer from.
That said, I do think it's pertinent to get it up and keep it up. And I'm talking about your VIBRATION! I met with an intuitive recently who helped me so much and one of the best things she taught me was about how not to process other people's feelings through my body (a thing I've done as long as I can remember, and by which I am always exhausted).
Here's what she said: When you walk into a room and find out what the prevailing feeling is -- like if someone is feeling guilty or sad or in pain and you know because you know -- instead of processing those people's feelings through your body and meeting the people where they are vibration-wise, send out a prayer or meditation of loving kindness: "May all beings be happy, may all beings be safe, may all beings be at peace." Keep your vibration high by doing that and people can choose energetically to meet you there or stay where they are.
I learned about entrainment recently, a property of physics where the vibrations will end up switching to whatever the strongest vibration is. This is one of the reasons why I'm often angry and irritated and entitled in Cambridge. Don't have much of a choice when the vibe is very strong. But you can work on your own. It's what I'm trying to do. I love the idea that people can just naturally pop up to your vibration if it's strong enough.
I was thinking recently about the lessons I'm meant to learn here. Not everyone believes we choose our lives and our families and my inner jury is still out on that. But assuming for a minute we do, what the hell am I supposed to learn? I believe it is that as a very sensitive person I'm meant to get better at boundaries, protect my sacred creative space in my heart so I can create even with the noise of needy chaos pounding at my ears. And then that makes me wonder -- yeesh, what's the next life going to be like what with this mere training ground? But let's not get too ahead of ourselves.
So the task is to have good enough boundaries and to take oneself out of toxic shit so we can create the light work we are meant to. And if you don't believe in that "meant to" noise, well then so that we can create the work and the light in the world that we want to. Want to, meant to, just as valid.
May all beings be happy, may all beings be safe, may all beings be at peace. You're all riding high already. Let's see if we can't gently suggest, energetically, with the strength of our own loving kindness, others join us at that high vibe.
A funny trickster move (as Liz Gilbert calls it in Big Magic) aspect to this action is that sometimes it takes realizing we are helping others to invest in our own self care. So like if you're having a hard time nurturing yourself by saying no to complainers or you "feel bad" for them because you were blessed, like me, with feeling their shizzz, know that you're doing them far more good sending out high vibration prayers of loving kindness than meeting them in the muck.
I mean, sure, meet your people in the muck and hear them. I'm not suggesting you advise the shit out of them. I'm suggesting a quiet maintenance of high vibe where they can come meet you as opposed to bringing the shitty feelings (that aren't yours) into your body. And where you're helping is that you're giving others the opportunity for their spirits to choose to meet you somewhere that feels a lot better than muck. What good are two peeps at shit level? No good!
Misery loves company, but so does loving kindness, which feels so much better.
This all makes me think of Robyn Hitchcock's song "Grooving on an Inner Plane": "I don't know what you're going through / I hope I'm going through it too." "Ah, sock it to me, Reginald."
It's me, Jennifer Bernice (rhymes with "Furnace": it was my Granny's name) Sutkowski
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